Pushin' Thru the Shit!

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there’s an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is a forever friendship. When you’re down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times and the confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not to worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.

​Infinite Patience = Immediate Results 
Patience. It’s something you may have found yourself “working on.” Not that you’re demanding, or pushy – you just want what you want. The hardest part of waiting is waiting. No joke! “Now, please.” (Pause. “Or, how about NOW?”)
It’s the Ego’s desire, and trust me, I get it! And truth be told, I never liked having to be “patient.” It felt like a rule. Patient meant “be a good girl.” And still. And quiet. And to buckle down for long periods of painful waiting. Geez, it’s like the commercial, “It’s my money and I want it now.” Yeah, “It’s mine and I want it NOW.” So logically – if you’re good, and still and quiet and you wait long enough – you’ll get what’s coming to you. (Maybe. If you’re lucky.) But now I believe differently, because somewhere along the way, I learned this: “Infinite patience produces immediate results.” – A Course in Miracles. Even my Ego likes the sound of that. 

But, when I allow my heart to rest here, and ask the question – “What is Infinite Patience?” – I find a feel-good gateway. I relax into the knowing that the experience of everything I desire exists within me, and I can choose that feeling place NOW. 
And when I am here, not only do I make myself one with “infinite patience,” but also with my desire. (Not to mention, I align with the immediate physical manifestation of it.) Let me say this another way. You can envision – and you can choose to experience and feel exactly what you want NOW – in such juicy detail – that you don’t even need to hold it in your hands. And when you get there, you’ll soon find yourself holding it in your hands. That’s the power of the Law of Attraction. And coupled with the powerful YOU – well, there are no words. Today, I want you to experience the Infinite Patience you get when you realize you have it all. The first step in having it all is KNOWING that you already do.  What’s the thing you want to create MOST in your life? I want you to close your eyes and begin to experience it, visualize it, on all levels of your being. Kick back, and choose your lucid daydream. (Do you know what else is an energetic and vibrational match to Infinite Patience? Enjoying the journey, staying present to your SELF, your loved ones and your life – honoring all that is before you as a lesson and a mirror. Trusting in divine timing. Detaching from the outcome. And knowing, beyond every shadow of a doubt – the Universe, God and all the Angels are conspiring in your favor. I would suggest you never “wait” again.) What comes up for you? What opens up? What is triggered?

​The Ending is Always the Beginning  
Know this. The END is always the beginning. A new chapter. A new desire. A new set of intentions. So, with that said, it’s time for a VISION BOARD. It’s time to make your dreams bigger than YOU. You are clearer. More expanded. More aligned than you’ve ever been. You’ve got a system for success, joy, peace, love, contentment, and abundance. The question is: are you willing to play again? Are you willing to play every day? Are you willing to play forever? Willing to start your new beginning? Willing to not be done?

Truth be told, you ARE playing forever – whether you acknowledge it or not. But will you use the tools? Will you play in a way that serves you? Will you continue your daily routine? (Which by the way holds the keys to it all!). (One of the biggest blocks I see is lack of consistency in conscious creation efforts. We tend to “consciously create” when the going gets tough – and when it gets GOOD – we stop our efforts. We move from “conscious creation” to “creating by default.” A bit of human nature there I’m sure!). I’m here to make a case for tending to, and watering the garden of your life each and every day. Even when the flowers look lush and amazing. Even when there are no weeds to pull. That’s how you grow a garden – don’t you? You nurture it – daily. Consistently. You give food, water and sunlight no matter what. Yes, even if the flowers of your life are AMAZING, water them anyway. Give them the food they need. And NEVER let the flowers of your life sit in darkness. Always, intentionally, bring the light. With your thoughts, feelings, emotions – and the vision you hold within.

Just say YES. To conscious creation that is deliberate, that is consistent, that is daily, and that is forever. That’s how you grow a beautiful life. And if you’ve gotten this far, I know you want it! So today, let’s acknowledge the END is the BEGINNING. And let’s get into your VISION, the one you’ve got for your life today. And, you’re about to make it visual. There is great power here.

▪Step 1: Invite your Inner Being to the party. 

▪Step 2: Get a board, and place upon it a visual and creative representation of your dreams and desires. Make it you, make it beautiful. Pictures, colors, words, art. Symbols, images that evoke feeling. Make it a board you’d want to live in if you could. One that would be your bliss.

▪Step 3: When you are done hang it in a place you’ll be able to see it. Where it will activate the vibration of all that you have, and all that’s coming into physical form. Revel in it, as you are called. 

You can make this as elaborate as you like. Take the time you need. Whether that be a few minutes, an hour, or a few days. Just enjoy the vision and trust the process. Take a picture and post it or put it in your journal.

​How to Become One with Money 
Ohhh, money. Seems to be the thing we are chasing after, looking to have MUCH more of, and in the same breath it eludes many of us – no matter how much we have, we are looking for more, and never seem to have enough. 
Let’s get clear about something. Why do you want it? Is it because it offers the feeling of security? Or even more so the feeling of freedom? 
I think it’s about both, but we love freedom. And do you know why? Because at the core it’s who we are. Free is the ultimate essence of our Inner Being. And when we dream of more money, we are dreaming of that feeling, because on this earth, money brings us the experience of that feeling. 
We are connecting with that, and it feels divine. 

I bet you think I’m going to say – seek the feeling of the freedom, and you won’t want for money again. Let go of all earthly belongings and live free with your soul. Do this, and all the riches of the earth will be bestowed upon you, somehow, some way. 

Ummmm. No. That’s not what I’ll say about that. (Although seeking the feeling of the freedom rocks, but go ahead and still desire your money.)
Here’s the truth as I know it. You get to want what you want. You get to manifest anything you desire in your life, and if money is that thing, then let it be your truth. Shout it from the mountain tops, money is fun, freeing, and it gives you the opportunities on this earthly plane to do the things that money can afford you. 

When you have an abundance of it, you can create a lot of positive change in the world – and have the option to give of yourself, versus giving away yourself. 
There’s a lot of negative stigma around wanting to create and manifest money. Society has attached it to greed, and evil, and shallowness. (And hey, is there some of that? Sure, there is some of everything.) In spiritual circles, people act as if it’s not spiritual to dream up a life of abundant wealth. 
You were born a creator. If you want to manifest a butterfly, do it. A rock? Go ahead. A river of cash that ebbs and flows in your life – do it. It’s yours for the wanting and the creating. 
What I will tell you: the only thing that stands between you and the money you want are your beliefs, your thoughts, the worth you stand in, and the action you take. 
So, with all of that said, give yourself permission to want, to dream and to desire – and stop feeling guilty about it. Personally, I think financial freedom is fabulous. Let go of the resistance and the thoughts, and let’s become ONE with money. 
Today, I want you to look at the relationship you have with money. This is the best indicator of the work you’ll need to do. 

Think money is hard to create? It’s not. Again, not if you’re willing to shift your belief system, your thoughts, your worth and your actions. Memorize those 4 things. As a coach, those are some of the biggest areas I work on with clients, to help them get out of their own way – in all areas. 
But let’s start here. 
Ask yourself this. If money were my best friend, how have you been treating her? Are you loving her? Are you angry with her? Do you slam the door in her face from time to time with your thinking? Or do you invite her in? Do you appreciate her? Do you notice how often she visits you? 

Just let this open your eyes. We tend to have a lot of thoughts about money that are harsh, limited, and negative. 
Embrace this belief fully: Money is ENERGY. That’s all it is. And ENERGY is LOVE. So wouldn’t that mean that money is love? 

Money is love. 
Now, same line of thinking. You are energy. And energy is love. And love is who you are. 

So, wouldn’t that make sense that YOU, the essence of your being and money are both LOVE?
And when you are a match to your desire, fully, you call it into your life. It can’t not be. Ask yourself, can I be a match to the love that money (already) is? 
It’s time to embrace this. And when you do, and as you change your thoughts about money, you’ll shift your financial blueprint.

Today’s exercise: Here we go. You’ve got a love letter to complete. Please do not hold back. Dig. 
“Dear Money, ohhh, how I love thee. Let me count the ways… ” 

(and go for it!!)

What’s Working?

There is one thing I know to be true, and that is – what you focus on grows. What you think about you comes about. It’s basic Law of Attraction theory. 

Now, you know by now that I believe it’s more than that – you need to come home to your worth, to the love you are and stand in your most powerful shoes as the creator of your reality to truly IGNITE the Law of Attraction in your life. It’s the missing ingredient. 

But today, let’s talk about pure thought.

We tend to get in funks and patterns of thought that don’t serve us. Your thoughts not only create your reality, but create your state of BEING, create your physical experience in your body, and even create synapses in your brain. 

Feel like you’re not choosing your thoughts? Like they are doing you? It’s just because you’ve conditioned yourself over a lifetime, and created a set of brain connections around a set of beliefs. (And by the way, it’s Day 7 – and if you’re doing the work here, you are already remapping your resonance, whether you feel it or not.)

So, yes. Thought is THAT powerful. And while I don’t want you to fear your thoughts (you can have your way with them) I do want to be straight with you about the impact they have on your life, your health and your prosperity.

You’ve heard the creation formulas. And they feel good. And they are true. 

Ask. Believe. Receive. 

Be. Do. Have.

For the purpose of today, let’s entertain this: 

Think. Emote. Resonate. Manifest.

We tend to focus on what’s not working. What needs fixing. What our troubles are. How it’s all wrong. How nothing will change. We obsess. And in that jungle, we have a hard time seeing opportunity and abundance that’s right before our eyes – much less having things turn around, unless we are being conscious and choosing our thoughts instead of letting our thoughts choose us. 

But let me refresh you. The truth is even just one thought has the power to change what’s not working into more of what’s working. 

Holding thoughts of “what’s WORKING” right now in this red-hot moment – has the power to open a gateway, or even a floodgate of a beautifully working life. Where everything clicks. Things show up in perfect time. Just for you. When you need it. Abundance unfolds because the more you focus on “what’s working” more and more and more and more shows up that’s WORKING. You attract it to you. 

And when you start wondering why life is getting so good, remember that you chose a thought, consistently, that brought more of that to your life. 

There is huge power here. 

Today’s exercise: What’s working out for me right now? List it. List all of it.

And affirm: Things are working out for me. Notice it with all that you are.

Gratitude VS. Appreciation
I love deep dives. I love feeling through how I’m feeling, or how my family and friends are feeling – to get the crux of an emotion, which sheds perfect light on the crux of a vibration, which sheds light on what you’re creating.
Life is full of subtle distinctions, subtle color variations, and subtle feeling variations that, when you pay attention, provide a spring board for self-awareness and transformation. It gives you the opportunity to fine tune your “signal” and make it more of a match to your desire. That’s our goal here right? To be in such vibrational alignment, to be so clear that our dreams and desires must, must come. 
Knowing that APPRECIATION is a match to Source Energy (see Day 1!) – I’ve always paid attention to gratitude as well. Is it the same? Does it vibrate at the same frequency? Does it produce the same results? Does it connect me to my joy? Does it make me an energetic match to the love I am? 
First things first. Stand in your power right now and FEEL. Just feel into those two words. First gratitude and now appreciation. 
When you are grateful, isn’t it usually attached to something you’ve overcome? Looking back over a life, a situation, a moment – even if it was just seconds before. Yesterday I felt grateful my sick child finally broke his fever. And in the next moment, I chose appreciation for him. For all heis. His sensitive, spunky ways. His sweetness, his kindness, for his healer heart. His wisdom for his age. For getting a glimpse in that moment for the mark he’ll put on this earth. The greatness he IS, and that he’s becoming. The package of him. 
And as I focus on that – appreciation overwhelms me, and suddenly there is no resistance in my vibration. There is no memory of his sickness. There is only love – and when you’re there – you are a match to your highest self. 
So, am I saying to skip gratitude? Nope. I’m saying it’s a spring board from where you’ve been, into vibrational alignment with who you ARE. The whole of you. Looking at life through the eyes of Source. Being one with all that is. That – is deep appreciation and where it can take you.
TODAY: Reflect on something you’ve struggled with and overcome, something you’re grateful for. Write it down. And then move into what you appreciate about that NOW. (That event, that person, that expansion.) Go deep. Make a list. Appreciating every ounce of what IS.

​Day 3: On Promise Keeping

Promises. They are a big deal, aren’t they? A sacred agreement that “shouldn’t” be broken, ever. Unless of course, circumstances arise that are so dire, all parties nod in agreement, and said contract is released. Okay, maybe I’m being a little dramatic. 

But let’s be serious. How do you operate? Are you a person of your word? Do you always do what you say? Never let another person down? 

Are you mortified when someone breaks a promise they’ve made to you? Maybe you shouldn’t be so hard on them – they aren’t the biggest promise breaker.

YOU are. 

If you’re like me, or if you’re like the majority – you’ve done your fair share of promise breaking to yourself. You have no problem keeping promises to other people, in fact you might even put them first. We are experts at it. 

I’ll be honest. I’ve broken more promises to myself in this lifetime than if I totaled up all promises that were ever made to me combined. From going to bed at a decent hour, to staying consistent in writing, to meditating, to voicing my truth, to not playing small. 

I’ll work on this forever. I need to for me. 

Here’s what you need to know in a nutshell. When you make a promise to yourself and don’t keep it, it sends a message to your subconscious mind that you are once again failing, and are once again not worthy. Which sets you up for deep rooted beliefs that don’t serve you. 

Is that what you want? I’m sure not. 

We all want 5 big things: to experience love, joy, freedom, purpose and health. And keeping promises to YOU, makes you a match to all of THAT. 

The remedy? Become a promise keeper. Commit to keeping your promises to yourself. (Does that make it a double promise? Cross your heart?) 

Remember this. Keeping promises to yourself is one of the greatest forms of self-appreciation. And remember day 1? (Self-appreciation is a match to Source Energy, and what can Source not do?) 

Today: In the name of self-love and appreciation, name three promises to yourself that you’re going to KEEP. Then, name the one promise you’re going to release, that you need to release, because it’s a source of disempowerment. I’d rather have you release a promise than have it disrupt your sense of worth and be an undercurrent of guilt. This exercise is about YOU taking your power back.

​Day 2: The 100% Responsible
You might find yourself vacillating between two familiar points in life.

One is feeling responsible for everything in your life, including your loved ones, your clients, your custoners, and your partners. The other is not wanting to take responsibility for anything (i.e., I didn’t ask for this, nor did I create it, life happens to me!)

If you’re like most, you find yourself ping ponging back and forth, hanging out in- between these two places – unsure of what you are truly “responsible” for as you set out to create your life.

What’s mine? What’s yours? What’s theirs? 

And, here’s the scoop – if you aren’t really sure, the path to success gets a little cloudy, and more difficult. So let’s create some clarity.

Try this on for size: “I’m responsible for my life, period. What it looks like, what I create, what I experience, how I react, how I emote, how I communicate, how I think, how I behave and what I believe.” Yes, all of it. 

Feel yourself in that space. It’s a match to abundance. It’s powerful. Taking responsibility is about stepping into your own personal power, rather than being at FAULT. “My life, is my fault.” Wrong. “My life, 100%, is my responsibility.” Correct.

I suggest you release faulting, and fault finding and finger pointing completely. Either in self AND/OR others. It only sets you up to hold some seriously toxic energy when you do, and toxins aren’t good for anyone on multiple levels.

The Shifts 

1. Acknowledge that the experience of your life, all of it…is YOURS. 

2. Remember that no one can live for you, respond for you, or feel for you. 

3. Get excited about the fact that you get to take credit for it all (much more power here)

4. Stop judging anything about YOU as a failure. 

5. Eliminate excuses – underneath your excuses is faulting energy. 

Today: Release FAULT. Step into a 100% responsibility model. Write in your journal or in the comment section about releasing how you release fault and take responsibility. Today: Release FAULT. Step into a 100% responsibility model. Post below about what that will look like for you personally. 

Need a tee up? Today I release FAULT on all levels, and take 100% responsibility for XYZ (be specific and list it) – I AM FREE. 

I release all fault, and step into 100% responsibility for my life and what it looks like. It’s all good. There are no faults here, just beautiful responsibility. 

Here’s an Example ? 

I am responsible, YES! Responsible for the house, all the clutter and my experience of my bedrooms. The renovations, my storage, the kitchen, my business, my blog, the outcome of my grown children, my cars, my attitude .. I own the experience of it, even though it feels like his place, I create and I own it all. 

Why not?  It’s something I’ve attracted an experience of. It’s mine. I OWN IT. 

Responsible for feeling overwhelmed sometimes and making more of things than need be. Responsible for my reactions, my sensitivity, and where I place my attention. 

Responsible for my guilt – the have to’s I place upon myself – and unwinding it. For any and all resistance I have to being vulnerable. For labeling myself as an introvert when it’s convenient. To writing this post. To being real. 

Responsible for what’s on my vision board, for my alignment, for my decision to meditate or not. Responsible for my “klutzy” vibration. Responsible for my classiness, sassiness, and brassiness. Responsible for my entire life experiences good and bad. Who? ME! I’M RESPONSIBLE.

Responsible for my JOY. For 4 amazing children I brought into this world (well, half responsible). For my relationships with all of them. For the abundance I flow and the prosperity I create. For the LUCK, BIESSEDNESS, created. For the magic that happens.

I Take total responsibility for the house I live in, the car I drive, the kind and loving marriage I live in, for the “stuff” I manifest – from the little to the big – I own it. 

From this place I AM FREE and powerful to create. 100% responsibility baby. 

If you create it ALL, you can HAVE IT ALL. 

​The thoughts you think are incredibly powerful. And it’s really true that you can change your life by changing your thoughts! 
Today is Day 1 of 100 days of changing your mind to change your reality! I will be posting the activity in here daily. I hope you’ll join in!!! 
The first step is to set your intentions. This is HUGE!!!! Decide where you want to be. Decide what you’d like to create. 

WRITE IT DOWN. This is the time to dream BIG. 

The 7 items below are crucial! I’ll post day 1 in another post. Happy creating!!!! 
Daily Manifesting Routine

1.   Practice Deep Self Love + Appreciation: This, this, this.  This journey is about coming home to the love you are, and standing in your most powerful shoes as a creator.  When you practice deep self love + appreciation, (and tag it as such)  you become a vibrational match to THAT (love!) which you are.  And what  can LOVE not create?

It’s  the key that opens the doors, lights you up + has the power to flow powerful abundance in your life.   It will transform you if you let it.  If you go deep enough.  If you are brave enough to let go of all that you are not.  What does that look like?  It’s limitless.  

It looks like: Breathing in sunsets.  Taking a bath every night before bed.  Meditation.   Time for personal growth,(more than you think you need).  Believing  in your greatness, and being it.  Being brave.  Listening to your  intuition.  Reading because it feels good. Making a choice to find a  better thought.  Taking the time to find a perspective that serves  you.  Listing everything you appreciate about yourself.  Seeing yourself through the eyes that God sees you.  Being gentle with  yourself.  Mustering more perseverance than you’ve ever known.  Taking care of your physical body.  Eating well + giving your body the best of the best.  Moving your body, challenging + pampering it. Expanding yours skill-set.  Allowing creativity to flow through you.  Release self judgment.  Investing in yourself. Permission to put yourself first, finally.  Saying no.  Saying YES.  De-clutter,  all levels.  100% Responsibility.  Sitting on your patio, in the sunshine, for breakfast.  Getting your nails done.  Hiring a  personal…someone for something.  Taking leaps.  Giving yourself time.   Letting go of other people actions.  Stop personalizing.  Stop judging.  Creating a reserve of LOVE and time and money.   Believing that everything is energy, and life is fluid.  Believing that you are WORTHY of it all.  Treating yourself like the  God/Goddess within, that you are.  Realizing that who you are, is  not what you DO.  Being willing to know the essence of yourself.   Remembering that bliss is a choice.  (the list goes on…and on…  and on….)  
2.   Meditation: There are several ways that you can engage in the process of meditation. You can choose a quiet sitting meditation, or a guided meditation of  your choice.  Meditation stops the “chatter” and allows you to line up with your GOOD, the TRUTH.  No matter what – meditate.  15  minutes a day + go from there. PS.  You don’t have to be perfect at it, in any way shape or form. 
3. Visualization: What you focus on grows.  What you think about you bring about.  Can  you visualize the FEELING PLACE of abundance + wealth + health for  just 17 seconds? 34 seconds? 68 seconds? That’s all you need. A little conscious focused energy, every day goes a loooong way, and  hold more creative power than a 1000 action hours.  (17 seconds process via Abe Hicks) 
4. Detach  from the outcome:“Let go” – but don’t let go of your focus. It’s about trust.   Visualize, imagine, create, intend from love and positive expectation and belief   Of main importance: Hold  your intentions DEAR versus tight.  Holding tight = scarcity, holding dear = prosperity. 
5. Revel in synchronicity! There is nothing sweeter than the magical unraveling of events and perfection in your life. Nothing more exhilarating than the sacred  signs that show up along the way, intuitive hunches, and happenings in your life that you “just can’t make up.”   Nothing more awesome than WINKS from the Universe.  Do yourself one favor….  REVEL in it!    There is bliss available to you here…. as you focus on the magic, more magic shows up.   Do you want more of that?   Don’t miss this piece.   🙂   
6.    Inspired Action:  Here the scoop… you need to take action.  You get the most juice  out of action when you’re INSPIRED – but based on what I’ve experienced…energy in motion stays in motion.   Action, if you let it, can CREATE that inspiration –  so don’t wait for it.  Ask for  it.  “What would I do right now, if I were inspired?”  or “Inner  being – I’m opening myself up for some inspiration  please!” Indeed, action creates higher belief in yourself,  reveals stepping stones along the path, and is needed to create motion in this very physical plane.
 7.  Be ready + open to RECEIVE. That means… consciously open yourself to receiving.  Say it with your words.  Feel it.

​The healing process: Trauma occurs. You feel it but feel more because you have stored trauma still in your body. Your stored trauma is re-traumatized. You cry. You shake. You feel confused. Lost. Foggy. You talk about it. You feel validated and heard. You feel less foggy. You feel confused still. You feel drained out. You cry again. It lessens. You feel strangely alive. You talk some more. You feel attacked. You shrink and doubt yourself again. You cry. You fight back. You feel stupid. You feel sad and embarrassed but more alive. You talk some more in a more coherent way so that you’ll be heard better. You feel more heard. You feel less foggy. Less confused. You feel a bit better. Nowhere there yet but better. You talk some more and set healthy boundaries with people who attack you. You know you aren’t strong enough to be attacked yet. You pray for the strength to endure attack and not feel attacked. You feel more alive. You share more. You care less and less about the attacks. You feel more united with those you share with. You feel more unity. You feel better. You realize you are not alone. People share these same feelings. You matter. You are okay. You smile. You laugh. Here and there. Not that often but often enough. You are on your way with each rolling tide just throw it out to sea.